Say Something, I'm Giving Up on You
It always makes me wonder when someone suddenly just refuses to talk any more; what on earth is that about? I've had it happen more than once, so I am puzzled beyond measure about this behavior. One friend of many, many years explained it at, least, before she wrote me off forever; I hadn't anticipated a need at a crisis point in her life. If she had simply expressed the need and what she wanted from me, I would have been there, doing it, in a heartbeat. But because I didn't realize her expectations, she no longer wanted to talk or see me at all. After years of relationship with her as she watched my children grow up, after decades of shared secrets and talks about God, the universe and everything, after endless cups of tea, endless laughter and tears-- then suddenly, nothing.
But she's not the only one. There have been the boyfriends who were so very, very attentive, talking to me daily, then disappearing like a puff of smoke with nary an explanation to be heard. That one, at least, I understand: someone else flipped the hem of her skirt at them and their attention was easily distracted. SQUIRREL!
It still hurts, though, when you reach out, ask to talk things out, ask to think it over, ask to stay in touch, and you are left with only the echos of your own importunate voice in an empty room.
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